How To Find Yourself And Enjoy Life

Hi there and welcome to the podcast at changeyourlifeforever.co.uk and today's episode is all about finding yourself.

We all lose our purpose in life sometimes and think that we are owed more or we want more or we simply just want to find ourselves again. It is really important in life to be who you are and not pretend to be someone else or live vicariously for others either.

You should find out who you are by testing yourself and finding out what you are worth and what you can have in life. Because you can have anything if you want it badly enough.

I hope you enjoy the podcast and there is more information at changeyourlifeforever.co.uk if you would like me to help you change your life too. Best wishes Scott

Transcript

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Hi there and welcome to changeyourlifeforever.co.uk. It's Scott the host of the podcast speaking. And today we're going to talk about how to find yourself when you are lost in life, because you know, sometimes in life we just forget who we are. We lose ourselves in life. We got caught up in, you know, everyday things and we kind of lose ourselves. We lose that person that we used to be, and that could be for lots of different reasons. You know, having kids, you know, different relationships, new jobs, different things, boredom, all sorts of things.

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And we can find ourselves just, you know, meandering through life rather than really making life what it is for us. So today I kind of just wanted to talk about, you know, how I found myself again, because you know, the, the, the last time I got divorced, it really was out of the blue, you know, and it was, it was, I don't love you anymore. And that's kind of, I don't want to talk about it. And all of a sudden your life changes dramatically. And I think it was at that point where I really actually realized that I should do more for myself in life.

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I committed myself to a relationship and, you know, looking after my daughter and doing everything I could for them, because generally I'm a little bit too kind sometimes. And I'll put others before myself, which is something again, you know, we have to learn not to do in life, but it was amazing. Some of the things that you come up with, you know, because you think, okay, I'm free. I can go and do what I want, and I'll do this. And I'll do that. And actually most of the time you don't. So some of those things that you think you would like to do just make you unhappy because you're not doing them when the reality is, you know, you should be having fun and enjoying yourself in life.

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So kind of what I did was I just made sure that I went out and met more people. And what I realized is the more people that I met the more you understand about who you are as a person, because you learn to communicate and socialize in different ways. And you know, you learn the value of other people and what they have to give you and what you have to give back. And, you know, circumstances will always change. And you don't really know yourself until you've been in lots of different circumstances, you know, and that's dealing with stress, dealing with anxiety, you know, doing high performance, sports, whatever it is, you know, you don't really know yourself until you test those parts of yourself.

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You know, what are you like when you're under stress at work? What are you like when you're under stress at home? What are you like when someone leaves you, for instance, you know, all these different circumstances, dictate who we are as a person and how we can interact and how we're going to live our lives. Moving forward. Now I keep life simple. Now, to be honest, I kinda look after myself first and foremost, to have a plan and goals in life. I want to achieve and I work hard to achieve those. And that doesn't mean that you have to be selfish and not give other people your time.

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You absolutely do. It's just, you look after yourself as being number one. And I've done a previous podcast on living for yourself that you can check out on that, but it's really important to understand who you are. What drives you, what motivates you, what makes you feel good, as a person, what would make you be happy? And what would make you get out of bed in the morning? Because when you find yourself and you are just yourself and you know, you're not trying to impress people, you're not trying to be somebody else.

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You're not trying to do things because you need to, or you have to, but you're doing things because generally,

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you just are

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A happy person, a kind person, and you can move forward. Knowing that every single day, you don't have to look over your shoulder. You don't have to look over your back. You know, there's no lies involved. There's no you pretending to be somebody else or, you know, you think, and, Oh my God, you know, this is a bit of a pretense. And what are they going to realize what they're going to think, when they see what I'm like for real. And I see this a lot, you know, when people meet each other and you've probably seen it yourself, you know, you have a conversation with somebody and all of a sudden a voice changes, or they go really posh.

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You know, they talk about things that kinda make them feel good, the whole idea about communicating and relationships is, listening to other people and asking them questions, you know, finding out about them, not talking about yourself so much, but being confident in you and yourself, and being able to learn every single time that you enter a situation, you know, and when you put yourself first and in kind of a self development phase, and, and you look at situations and go, actually, you know, I could have done better at that.

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Or maybe I shouldn't have said that, or maybe I could have done this differently. You deal with it in a proactive approach rather than an anxious approach. And it's really, really important that we all learn to find ourselves by just being ourselves. If people don't like us, that's fine. If circumstances, you know, come along and, and blows us out the water, that's fine because obstacles in life do happen. Again, if we, if we deal with them proactively, we can get over them and we can move forward in life.

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But the big thing is finding out who you are, who you are as a person, what value you add to the world? What value you add to your own life and other peoples. And when you find that life does become easier. When we stop listening to other people, we don't take their criticism. You know, we objectively evaluate ourselves and look to do the best that we can. And we find ourselves by testing ourselves in different situations, you know, and it's entirely up to you, you know, how, how you kind of approach this but, working on yourself is, is, is a really important piece.

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Because when you understand yourself, it really does get rid of that anxiety because you're not questioning self about silly things, your confidenct in yourself, you know who you are, you know, what your capabilities are. So rather than saying no to doing something, you'll look at it and go, yeah, actually I could do that. I could probably do a better job if I have this, this, this, that, and the other, well, I'll have a go, I'll have a Bosch and I'll go and do it. And by doing more things in life, you'll find out more about who you are as a person, you know, with your kids.

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For instance, you know, sitting down, talking to them, finding out about their emotions, who they are, you know, what they think and feel. It's really, really interesting to, to listen to how kids think and feel because everybody in life feels and thinks things differently than, than we do. And when they find themselves and you encourage them to be themselves, you know, you're not criticizing them. You're making sure that you concentrate on telling them how great they are at stuff. You know, how good they are at certain subjects at school or whatever, and making them feel good about themselves.

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And they will find themselves too and they will feel comfortable. There's nothing worse in life than having to feel as if you have to act a certain way in front of anybody, you should always be yourself. And by being yourself that will allow you to find yourself. So there's loads more hints and tips on the blog that I've put together for you. So there's a bigger breakdown of, you know, what the things are that you can do to find yourself again, if you are a bit lost, you know, and, and you need that motivation to move forward in life, and you want some ideas about how you can find yourself, so do visit that it's changeyourlifeforever.co.uk/blog.

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Take care and I'll speak to you again very soon. All my very best Scott.