Hi there and welcome to the podcast for changeyourlifeforever.co.uk. Today's episode is all about why empathy is important. Being empathic really is a skill that will help you out in life if you can put yourself in other people's shoes.
By putting yourself in other people's shows you will realise what they are going through and the barriers that life is presenting them. When you understand what drives them and why the way they react in the way they do, will help you build better relationships in life.
Sometimes we just need to let our feelings go and just look to learn to understand the situation and people in a better way.
I hope you like it and do check out our blog at changeyourlifeforever.co.uk/blog all my best wishes Scott
Hi there and welcome to the podcast for changeyourlifeforever.co.uk. Today's episode is all about why empathy is important. Being empathic really is a skill that will help you out in life if you can put yourself in other people's shoes.
By putting yourself in other people's shows you will realise what they are going through and the barriers that life is presenting them. When you understand what drives them and why the way they react in the way they do, will help you build better relationships in life.
Sometimes we just need to let our feelings go and just look to learn to understand the situation and people in a better way.
I hope you like it and do check out our blog at changeyourlifeforever.co.uk/blog all my best wishes Scott
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Hi there and welcome to changeyourlifeforever.co.uk. It's Scott talking and your host of the podcast. And today we're going to talk about why empathy is important, because it really is a skill that you can learn, but it's something that, you know, a lot of people really, really don't get. And when you're, when you put it down to the basics, it's about looking at people's situations and walking in their shoes, you know, and having some sympathy for how they might react to something, because in life just because we think something's easy, doesn't necessarily mean somebody else does.
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And what we might think is really hard. Somebody else might not think it's hard. You know, me going through a divorce and you're going through a divorce, they're going to have two completely different outputs. So it's really important that when you learn to communicate with people that you understand where they're coming from and why they're feeling like that, you know, it's like a lot of people complain about the boss at work or angry bosses and management or whatever, you know, but sometimes they forget about that person.
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And the reason why they're like that, you know, they are probably under pressure they've got budgets, they're going to make people redundant. They've got decisions to make the, probably gonna stress at home, probably stress all over the place. Cause naturally people don't want to be angry. People don't want to be upset. People want to be happy, you know, no one rarely chooses to be like that. We're just made like that sometimes. And I think if you can actually sit down and have a conversation with people where you listen to their thoughts, their feelings, then it makes you a stronger person because you see things from their perspective, it allows you to become empathic in the sense that, you know, you understand, Oh my God, actually I never thought about something like that.
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I'd never seen it from that angle. I didn't realize that the way you looked at it was completely different than me. And it is all about not interjecting but listening, you know, teenage kids, right? A prime example, you know that it doesn't matter some days, they just, they don't like you. And I know this with my teenage son, he's absolutely wicked and i love him to bits. And you know, sometimes hormones take over and he thinks I'm an absolute idiot other days. He loves me to the absolute moon and back.
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But understanding why he's in that mood? Understanding why he doesn't want to speak to me one day or is not very happy is what makes you a better person inside because I'm not going to go to him and say, Oh, you know, you shouldn't be moody. This, that, and the other, you know, pull your finger out, do this, do that. I understand emotionally. Why he's feeling like that? What can I do to help? Is there anything I can do to help if I can't and you leave it, if i can then I do, but everybody's feelings dictate how they react, how they are feeling, you know, just because somebody is not presenting themselves in a good way to you.
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It doesn't mean that their a bad person. And doesn't mean that their not kind. It doesn't mean their a nasty person. It just means that at that point in time, when you were talking to them one day, when you were getting to know them, that you didn't understand how they were feeling about a given thing, and it really does empower you. It empowers you to understand and not take things personally, because again, people say and do things without realizing it sometimes, but we can take it personally ourselves, but by sitting down and understanding what that person did you really mean to say that, you know, why did you say that?
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What was the meaning behind it? We're you frustrated. Anything else that was was going on, that helps you as a person grow exponentially because then you have answers to the questions that are going around in your head rather than you questioning yourself. Well, why did they do that? Why did they say this? They must've been out to hurt me. They must not like me or whatever. It allows you to ask. Good questions of people. You know, look, I'm really sorry, but you know, I took that in a different way than I think you meant it.
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But could you explain to me, you know, did you really mean to upset me? And they'll say yes or no. You know, if they said yes, then obviously, you know, there's more conversations. I'm not, but most of the time people would say no because they weren't being empathic towards you. And you know, building great relationships is really around that empathy because we all understand that everybody can have bad days. Everybody can have bad times, but we need to be open minded enough to put ourselves in that person's shoes and understand why they might do those things and not necessarily make up our own minds for them, but actually ask the questions, listen to what the answers are.
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I know work is a great example, when, people ask you to do stuff of your boss or whatever, just reinforce what it was they were asking you to do, because what they may have said to you might be something completely different. And just being empathic is, is, is a great skill. It's a really great skill. And I guarantee that if you listen to people, understand their feelings, understand their thoughts. You might not agree with them. And that's okay too. But understanding how people feel will make you a stronger person.
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And when you come across that situation yourself, you will know how to respond in the right way yourself too. So empathy, really, really is an important thing, guys, you know, try and listen to others, try and understand, try and put yourself in their shoes and also put yourself that situation too. So that's all I've got to say today on empathy is important there's loads, more hints and tips on changeyourlifeforever.co.uk/blog on that particular subject. And also if you fancy joining me on the transformation journey, you know, where I send you daily videos every day to give you inspiration, to give you tips and hints and stuff, then come and join me on changeyourlifeforever.co.uk.
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And I wish you a great week ahead. Take care. See you soon, Scott.